Why Keep Watching?

In doing some restructuring of my blog page, I’m realizing I’m not very good at practicing what I preach. I tend to sit down to do a blog (usually for Outlander) a bit hot-under-the-collar about something. I’ll try to do better.

I believe I am a fairly intelligent person. For the most part, I can reason things out pretty well and feel I have a good amount of common sense to get me through life. But I am seriously boggled by something and just can’t seem to come up with a reasonable explanation. Perhaps those who participate in this particular phenomenon can explain. I’m not trying to be snotty or dismissive or condescending here, I honestly want to, try, to understand.


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If Outlander, the TV Series, annoys/pisses you off/irritates you so much that you feel you have to bash/trash/condemn it across social media – why do you keep watching?

I am asking a serious question here. I’ve seen some comment that they ‘hope it will get better’ or ‘hope the writers will get their heads out of their arses and fix it’ or ‘they hold out hope the series will come back to its source material’. Really?

Keep in mind, I’m not referring to the many people that discuss or have spirited debates about what they liked/didn’t like, the variations from the written source material or, what they feel, are changes to the base of the character. I’m referring to those people who spew acidic speech making it seem this is the most horrible show they have ever watched and the world will end because the creative team doing it is totally f*cking up what should be a totally simple accomplishment of cramming 44+ hours of story into approximately 13 hours.

The series is the vision of the creative team, headed by Ronald D. Moore, BASED on the books that Diana Gabaldon wrote. Ron only ever promised that they would stay true to the spirit of the story. Television is NOT a novel – it can’t do/be the things the written word can be. It has restraints and constraints that books don’t. Ron and the team are trying to create good television, not ‘recreate’ the books written by DG. I address this in The Book is the Book and the Show is the Show (if you care to read it).

Also, it’s not that people have issues with what is being presented in the series, it is HOW they express themselves that sets my teeth on edge. I did a whole blog on that too (Courtesy & Respect) so I won’t repeat here.

I would seriously LOVE to get feedback as to why so many keep watching the show when they are so obviously infuriated by it. I saw one comment saying if we (those frustrated/angry/upset) quit watching the show will tank completely and be cancelled. But, doesn’t all that negativity and nasty comments turn off potential new viewers? If people search through social media about this show called Outlander and see all the really horrible comments, aren’t they likely to be turned off without ever giving the show a chance?

I simply can NOT understand if something – anything – frustrates and annoys you so much why you would continue to spend your valuable and limited time on it? We all only have so many minutes/hours/days/etc. to spend on things…wouldn’t we be best served to spend that time on things that bring us joy or enrich our lives or enhance our understanding?

You love the books/characters/story Diana has created but the series is driving you mental with the changes/adaptations/shifts. I’m not saying “just stop watching and stick to the books you love” …. I’m seriously asking “why do you keep watching when you know it will only annoy you?”

Comments? Explanations? Help me understand – seriously.

If I were to die tomorrow – Would there be any sorrow?

I hope so. But I’m not a celebrity or anyone important….I’m just me.

Most of us have been there at one time or another; for some, far more often than is healthy. That place of utter devastation, that crevasse of self-loathing, that arid plain of feeling completely useless to ourselves or anyone else. That heavy heart at lack of accomplishment or that pit of despair from loss.


This picture, a moment on celluloid, has always captured that for me.

Interestingly, it also comes from one of my favorite movies – especially this time of year. To me “It’s a Wonderful Life” is all about realizing that I (along with every person alive) have worth in this world. Some people choose to throw that worth in the gutter by committing evil acts and some just can’t grasp that about themselves, but I believe it to be true.

George Bailey wasn’t anyone special. Just a guy who had hard slaps in life, yet managed to keep moving forward. He had big dreams he never quite realized. He often felt let down, a failure, unable to provide for his family the way he wanted to – yet those were small moments in a productive life.

He had no real idea (nor do we) just how many lives he touched and affected. He just lived his life, doing what he felt was right, even when it wasn’t always convenient. More, each of those lives he touched, affected others, who touched others and the ripple continued. Like we each do every day. When Clarence gives him the chance to really see what others lives would have been like without him, it is a startling revelation of how ordinary acts can make a huge difference.

PTSD, depression and their related issues are too big an issue to include here. Maybe another time – if it’s something people would be interested to see.

I understand, all too well, the idea that just giving up on life would be far too easy some days. The situation I am in currently, I often feel like more of a burden to my wonderful partner than a helpmate. So many goals and dreams I’ve all but given up on…what is the point of continuing?

So, I’ll watch the movie again and remind myself that, while I may not get to see it, I have no idea how much that tweet or FB post or email or note might lift someone else and be helpful. That simple smile given to a stranger. All the little things I just DO because it’s who I am – that may make a huge difference to someone I’ll never know about.

I’ll remember that, just because some of my dreams haven’t been realized, I’ve been blessed in other ways I never imagined. Just as, to him, George’s dreary existence made his little corner of the world a better place – maybe I can do that too. I don’t have to be a superstar or a celebrity to make a difference. Alive or dead a may not have thousands who will follow all I say or do or would mourn my passing. All I can do is be true to myself and strive every day to be the best I can be and thankful for all I have.

I hope all my ‘friends’ on social media can find their ‘hope’ in something over the holidays. While the holiday season is great in many ways, it can also bring out the bad stuff in a big way.

However you celebrate, be blessed. If you need it, here is a hug to help get you through.